When someone tells you that you’ve got an attitude, it’s usually not a good thing.
We’ve come to associate attitude with bad attitude. With being resentful or antagonistic. Or simply disagreeing with what we believe to be true.
Whatever happened to good attitude? Why doesn’t anyone talk about it anymore? Has our society become so negative that we no longer see the good in people?
That may sound a little far-fetched, but it’s not far from the truth. We don’t talk much about a positive mental attitude.
It was Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone who coined the phrase Positive Mental Attitude. They said that, if you view every aspect of life in a positive manner, you will attract positive change and increase personal achievement.
So your mindset, good or bad, will determine what you set your mind to. And a good attitude will invariably produce better results, both for you and for those you surround yourself with.
Here are a few suggestions to help you achieve a positive mental attitude.
1. Recognize that you are in control. You have the power to regulate your thoughts, words and actions. You can choose how to respond to circumstances. It’s a weak but well-used argument that says your attitude depends on how others react to you. Not true. Your reactions are based on how you choose to manifest them.
2. Your attitude determines your world. When you maintain a positive attitude you are a happy and contented person. A negative attitude brings the exact opposite characteristics. You will always experience highs and lows. The attitude you carry each day will determine how you react to each situation.
3. Your attitude is visible. Because we are emotional, our actions will always expose our thoughts, no matter how hard we try to hide them. Your facial expressions and body language will show your true feelings. The right attitude on the inside will always come through on the outside.
4. You determine the attitude of others towards you. This is where other people will try to blame you for their bad attitude. They will tell you that their attitude is based on how you treat them. While this may be true to a point, their attitude is ultimately their own responsibility. However, if you come across as negative or condescending, they may have a valid argument.
5. Your attitude can direct the outcome. Not entirely, not all the time, but your positive or negative approach to a situation can affect the result. Looking for the good is always a better problem solver than focusing on the worst.
6. Your attitude determines your happiness. A positive mental attitude will keep you on track and content. When you consistently look for the good, you start seeing it at work in almost every situation. Yes, there will be setbacks, but you should always be able to find workable solutions to most obstacles.
Not every challenge results in a successful outcome, but a positive frame of mind can often make a defeat look and feel like a victory.